Promoting Positive Intimacy and Sexuality Exposing False Traditional Christian Repressive Sexual Teachings That Have No Biblical Basis Nonprofit - not a Church or cult - just sharing ideas meaningful to so many.
Somewhere between babyhood and adulthood we develop touch barriers which can be harmful to our well-being. Touch is a God given need that we never outgrow. Touch can be richly enjoyed for its own sake, and not just as a prelude to sex.
Surveys have shown that overwhelmingly most people do not touch as much as they would like, especially with the opposite sex, even when no other sexual activity is desired. We often cover up our need for intimacy by activities, sports, TV, work, church, or through drugs, alcohol, or sex for only selfish physical pleasure.
If you want more touch in your life, you must risk reaching out to touch. Sometimes you will be rejected, but the joy from the times when you can find another sincere toucher far outweigh the times of rejection. Be sensitive to the fact that some types of touch are more appropriate than others for new relationships or strangers. A touch to the arm can be a non threatening way to get a feel of the others comfort level.
Sexuality is Gods gift of even greater pleasure through sex. Sex should be pleasure sharing at its best but also with concerns for health issues, protection from unwanted children etc. Many sexual techniques can be learned which, especially for women, are often more physically pleasurable than just intercourse.
Lust is the selfish gratification of a person's sex drive for their own physical pleasure. Lust is very different from mutual pleasure sharing in sexuality or non sexual sensuality through touch.
Love Can Be Sincerely Shared For The Moment Love does not have to mean a long term commitment but rather sincere love for the uniquely wonderful human spirit you can share with at this moment in time. Love is like peanut butter ... it needs to be spread around in a sincere caring way. More people in the world are starving for love and affection than for food.
We without hesitation hold a baby, stroke a cat, but often avoid touching another person. Love needs physical expression, yet we fear it so we sit in loneliness and physical isolation, too uptight to share in the beauty of physical communication.
Therapeutic non sexual Esalen Massage. Using therapeutic techniques of Swedish massage, Esalen massage is a unique style that also reflects an attitude of touching, caring, energy awareness and emotional, spiritual healing in addition to releasing muscle tension and other physical benefits.
Erotic massage techniques can also be wonderful for those that are comfortable with more pleasure sharing. Sensate focusing techniques can also be pleasurable without having to take off clothing yet can explore pleasurable touch.
Watsu Water Shiatsu Massage. Cradled and rocked in warm hot springs water relaxed by shiatsu massage and supported by water and another person. Can be also enjoyed using Tantsu massage on land.
Caress Therapy where cuddle and caress without having it to lead to sex. Massage Groups such as the Stroking Communities or Stan Dale/Human Awareness Institute Sexuality Workshops where you discover there is so much more to sex than just sex. Or Tantra which integrates positive woman-pleasure-centered sexuality with ones spirit.
Jerry De Haan, a sex surrogate explores the special problems of sexual intimacy that women experience. Married or single, sexually active or virgins, women are referred to Jerry because they are sexually unfulfilled and seek a positive way to have a more enriching life. Jerry takes women on a journey of self-discovery. They learn about their bodies, and the male body, some of them for the first time. They shed ingrained embarrassment and concealment of their physical selves, and come instead to find pride and comfort in their natural sensuality. Jerry teaches a woman to concentrate not on how her partner reacts to her touch, but on her own sensual reaction to what she is doing to her partner and to what her partner is doing to her. Jerry was also the source of much of the studies that led to the medical community accepting the presence of the "G-Spot" in women.
Europeans don't see why they can't be topless on beaches. We treat women's breasts as sex objects rather than just a part of the body. With sexual experience comes respect rather than desperation due to starvation, just like if we were deprived of food. Nude or topless dancing encourages immature men to ogle over a woman's body as a sex object. Titillation is the opposite of intimacy.
Research Papers (Request by title can send E-mail ) Thoughts on Sex & Christianity (30 pages) discusses biblical texts, Christian history, positive Christian sexuality. Other topics include the idea that maximum pleasure sharing is learned not just natural; the healing power of sex; the need for sex education of youth and not just abstinence teaching; Sex vs. Intimacy as well as extensive personal experiences in his own spiritual journey and an apologetic for Christ as God's son.
Bibleanity Vastly Different From Christianity (14 pages) Jesus clearly changed all the rules, replacing them with the law of love from the Sermon on the Mount; the cult of Fundamentalism; discussion of problems with biblical texts and love over legalism that Christ taught.
Homosexuality and the Bible (40 pages) examining texts that have been falsely mistranslated condemning homosexuality. Powerful testimony of a Christian lesbian (credits Dave with sa ving her from suicide), her powerful transformation out of conservative Christianity into finding God's real love and breaking out of her addiction to Fundamentalism. Discussion notes relate to Prodigy computer bulletin board attacking Dave's views and his counter points. Dave personally has no interest in homosexuality, but believes the false Christian teaching is the abomination, not the natural sexual orientation that God gave so many loving gays and lesbians
Responsible Non-Monogamy (6 pages) about so called "Swinging," the lifestyle myth, reactions of beginners, historically few cultures monogamous, Sexual Pleasure Sharing, Real risk of AIDS - Not Hysteria.
Nudity is Natural (4 pages) Some say nudity is immoral and we should never allow others to see our true bodies. It is all right to titillate with provocative clothing, but not show all. This sense of shame was much less a fact in Biblical times. Fortunately, there is a very rapidly growing naturist movement that knows: "Nude is not lewd" who view the body with dignity and respect and not as a stimulus to sexual activity.
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